"The mother's guilt"-This famous phrase never gets old, for no one has ever been able to overcome it. Nature doesn't allow it, whether for good or bad. You protect your child, feeling guilty for making them dependent; you let them forge their own paths, and you're plagued by guilt for not being there. There's no definitive right or wrong in this area but either way you are bound to guilt. I've been there, and I'm still there.
Every time my sister sits with my son for their private talks, I wonder if only I were my child's aunt, I could also tell him to simply punch the guy who hurt him, or who cares about the academics, or you just do what your heart says and so on. But I can't! Because that's what parents are meant to do: always guide them in the right direction, shielding them from troubles before they arise. And trust me, it's agonizing. You would want to say it aloud, that you're not the person they think you are. You've done some cool and reckless things in your times too, but everything turned out okay. However, you just can't, because your instinct never allows it. The moment you give birth to a child, a mother is born alongside, whose natural instinct is always to protect and guard your child. Perhaps hoping they'll realize one day, why we do what we do.
Funny part, that one day, yet again guilt lingers. They come to you realizing their mistakes, you'll still display your guilt card. You'll make it seem like you did everything wrong just to ease their burden and make them feel better. Being a parent is an emotional rollercoaster; it tries to silence your conscience for all sorts of reasons and never lets you take pride in your parenting.
But then, this parental feeling also makes you human, as it's the only role that teaches you unconditional love – and that's real. Being a parent, especially a mother, is simultaneously winning and losing a battle. It's the most beautiful and terrifying relationship at the same time. In other words you just cant be the good guy even if you want to, but the bond of love remains irreplaceable.
How strange!
Conscious parenting is about becoming mindful of your behavior and engaging with your child as an individual.
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